22 Little Things my Mother Taught Me


How to love unconditionally

She leads with empathy and grace. No matter how I acted or what hurtful things I said she always looks forward and never brings up anything of the past. No matter what, her heart just grows fuller of love. She has instilled in me how to show empathy and care for people. To love the people who mean the most to you will all you have. The amount of love she has inside of her still amazes me.

Write thank you notes

In a world run on technology a nice hand written notes says a lot about a person. Especially when it is personalized, what that person did to make your life better or help you grow as a person. I hated that my mom made me write everyone a note for EVERYTHING, but honestly how good does it feel to get something in the mail that is from someone else besides Visa or Salle Mae.

Only keep the people in your life who make it wonderful

Being a sensitive female, I had my fair share of bad friends. My mom always tried to tell me that I didn’t need that in my life, but at 13 you don’t really understand what the hell she’s talking about. But I now know that friendships are a two way street, and both people need to be putting in the effort to care about the other person. Your friends need to make you feel good about yourself.

Follow your instincts

Everything from the first answer you put down on a test to if you are happy in a relationship, my mom has always instilled in me that my first instinct is always right. From people to situations she has allowed me to develop and follow my own instinct which lead me to follow my heart and find out what I truly wanted.

Respect everyone, even if they don’t deserve it

Everyone deserves respect and kindness because you don’t know what someone else is going through. You never know why people are sad or annoyed, so maybe a smile will help them through or just some kind words. She never gets annoyed or raises her voice, I have never seen her speak down to anyone. Because my mother worked so hard to be where she is today, she treats everyone as her equal.

How to be polite

Remember always say “please” and “thank you” and after dinner ask to help clean up the dishes. There was no misbehaving or being rude because she will always find out, somehow some way, she always knew when I was acting out of line. I never wanted to disappoint her because she gave so much to give me everything and more I always wanted to show people how good of a job she (and my other 3 parents 🙂 ) did.

Never allow the people you love to go out looking like a fool

She never ever ever let me walk out of the house looking less than 100%. She always wanted me to look my best. So I have carried that on to my friends! I would never let one of my best friends out looking like a crazy person dressed them. She would encourage my to try new clothes and wear things that she knew would look great on me!

To know what a great childhood was

I had a childhood filled of happiness and amazing memories, laughter and love. I don’t remember the materials things I had, but I remember the love that she surrounded me and everyone who stepped into our lives with. Constantly playing and imagining! I was encouraged to be creative and use my imagination (plus I was an only child so I had to).

Showing how to support

She never missed a college game, she reads every one of my blog posts, she listens to everything I have to tell her about. She is always fully invested in the conversation, she is never texting while I’m talking, she is and always has been 100% there. She gives great advice because she actively listens to what I have to say. Support was always a plenty.

Live within your means

There is a time to splurge and a time to save, I grew up knowing the difference. We always lived within our means because we had to! I’m not in debit with credit card bills and I never buy things if I don’t have the money. My mother stressed that if you don’t have the money, don’t place yourself into unsinkable debt. She taught me how to get what I need and sometimes what I want while still having money for groceries.

Patience is a virtue my child

My mom and gram’s favorite saying. I am not a patient person and no one knows that better than my mother. From pitching a fit because something didn’t work properly to getting antsy because the wait was too long. She is always patient and calm, rarely would get annoyed or anxious, accept was I was truly upset. She taught me how to handle situations with grace and finesse.

How to respect my body

She never told me I needed to look a certain way or change anything about myself. She never asked why I had to have a second cupcake or if I went to the gym that day. She encouraged me to love my body and work with what I got. Whenever I would find something to hate about my body, she would only point out the positives.

How to fail with your head held high

I made mistakes she made me fix them and learn from them but I never felt alone. My mom stood behind me the entire time. She taught me that I wasn’t perfect and that life is tough but  also how to stand on my own two feet. I wasn’t ever the best at anything, we didn’t have a wall full of medals, but I felt special because she knew when I gave it my all and also told me when I didn’t.

How to welcome others into your home and heart

Our home has always had an open door policy. People just feel comfortable there. They know to walk right in and help themselves to a soda. On Christmas Eve we have my whole family over, and everyone knows you roll up their sleeves and dive on in. Whenever we have guests stay over she makes sure to make them feel as comfortable as she can. She always allowed friends to come over and wouldn’t hesitate to offer them to stay for dinner.

I live a fortunate life

It is easy to get caught up in your life. That is why it is so important to take a step outside and realize that there are so many things going on that you don’t see on a regular basis. I am lucky to live the life I live, but not everyone is so fortunate. My parents gave and taught me so much and they made sure that I knew how lucky I was! They showed me how to appreciate everything I have!

Give back

Volunteering can offer a new perspective on life. Seeing people who are worse off than you are, yet still hanging in there, can help you see your  life in a whole new light. She does all that she can with what she has. Help others and give back to those who need the help. Even helping someone who will never be able to return the favor has a huge sense of satisfaction.

Never settle

It sounds cliché but being with someone who makes you happy is all that matters. Looks, money, and most other things do not last forever and will fade with time. But if you are with someone who is happy and makes you happy, you’ve got everything you need. Life will be enjoyable and fun.

Keep to your word

If you make a promise stick to it! From promising a friend you’ll help them move to meeting up with someone for a drink, stick to it. You want your word to mean something to people, you should always be reliable! You should try to be a good person, who helps others and stays true to what you believe in! There is nothing worse then being known as a flake or unreliable! If you do something wrong, own up to it. In the end, stay true to your word it shows a lot about our character.

Learn to be an interested listener

Listen to what other people are saying, really listen, don’t do that thing where you think of what you are going to say next. Sine my mom listens and doesn’t just hear, she picks up on a lot of little things people say and what. She constantly is bringing people little things she thinks they will love because she KNOWS them. Let people talk and get their point across.

Live a little- Eat the cake

Eat what you want and enjoy it! She doesn’t mean eat unhealthy but if you really want a cupcake because it looks amazing then don’t stop yourself from having a taste or two. If you want seconds have more. Enjoy the flavors of life and don’t let the fear of calories hold you back, it’s not worth it to eat boring foods.

Sweets make everything better

Who doesn’t love the person who is associated with baked goods. My mom will bake for anyone. I know she thinks that something homemade will help any situation. She loves when people feel comfortable and that my family associates with food. She knows that warm chocolate chip cookies will make any situation better!

Cry when you’re sad

Show emotions, it only means your human. Don’t keep everything inside. You need to let it out and be open. You need to be there for someone too if they ever need a shoulder to cry on. Emotions let people learn more about who you are.

A mother is a person who, seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.

So thank you for loving me and believing that I was destined for greatness. Because you believe in me, I believe in myself. Thank you for always having my best interest at heart and leading my down the right path, even if I didn’t know you were doing it! Your soul is nothing but happiness and love and I hope to be half the mother and wife that you are. With the patience of a saint you have been through so much and still seem to shine some good on the world every day.

Until next time,



Ex- College Athletes and Their “Issues”



Who knew that your workout clothes couldn’t sit in your laundry basket for a week all soaked in sweat? I didn’t because in college I had a nice man by the name of Jay who would wash my clothes for me. Well, not just me but I was totally a favorite! How do I know this? Well he would never yell at me ever though I would pack my bag so full it looked like it would burst open at the seams! He also would leave me Jolly Ranchers in my locker, we had a special relationship. The fact that I never had to wash my athletic clothes came as a harsh realization when I found out how much I actually sweat!

How to work out without the threat of something happening if you don’t show

So we all try it, go to Planet Fitness, the first day you run and lift like you are training for season. You go steadily for probably a good week or two and one day you just aren’t feeling it, so you don’t go. Well one day turns into three months off and before you know it the only exercise you get is running downstairs when the pizza guy is at the door. The problem is no one is going to yell at you and make you do burpees until you puke because you “didn’t feel like it”. So this is where we see who has the mental toughness, so start working out like you have a championship game to prep for.

Or on the opposite side of the spectrum, you go 100% all the time and beat yourself up if you can’t make the gym one day! You even workout when you go away on a business trip because nothing is going to stop you. If you are wondering if people think you’re nuts, they totally, without hesitation do. Because they don’t understand the fear of God your coach put into you. You don’t have a team to “let down” if you aren’t in shape but you still feel like you have to train.

How to Dress

You are told what to wear and how to wear it. On the bus you all dressed alike because you did not want to piss your coach off by embarrassing her when you walked off the bus in mismatched outfits! So not only did you have to dress the same in season but you still dressed alike in your off-season. You all have the same t-shirts and sweats, and since you don’t explore the other feminine sections of your closet, there is a big chance you and a teammate will be wearing the ’09 Spring Ball t-shirt. Then there is the biggest situation, sweatpants aren’t acceptable all of the time? My Nike running shorts and a Hanes white tee were and still is my go to outfit (outside of work now…)

Competitive Nature

My most endearing quality, being absurdly competitive. Everything from driving somewhere and having to be first to winning a game of bowling! At work my competitive nature drives me to be the best, which only proves how crazy I am! You were conditioned to be competitive and how to perform under pressure. Competing as an athlete is great. Competing once you’re an ex-athlete…. not so much. I’m sorry but your co-workers don’t care that you are dome league camps or that you beat everyone in suicides in your fitness class…

It’s hard when you find someone who is competitive JUST like you because it obviously isn’t the norm. You see how crazy you actually look and it kinda puts things into perspective. Until you have to compete… and win again…

How not to hurt

Not having a trainer to stretch you out before practice and someone to fix your boo boos is rough #firstworldproblems. I loved going to the trainer before and after practice with my aches and pains because they knew what to do to fix it! We are basically just giant three year olds who come crying when we get hurt! I loved just having that guidance of what to do or just even someone to stretch my hammy out when it was a little too tight! I would go to my trainer all the time with things like “Why does my leg hurt when I push on it like this?” and “I have this weird red mark, is it staph???” My athletic trainer is going to miss me so much….

Physical punishment is not acceptable in real world problems

Wait… So… If I do something wrong my coworkers don’t have to run? Or have their work clothes taken away like our workout gear did in college?? Huh…
Apparently physical punishment is not used outside of sports, well not in most countries. You were terrified if you woke up late for practice or if you tried to skip out on lifting and got caught! In the real world (and by real world I mean life after college) you just lose your job. No yelling, no pushups, no scene is made, just a clean break and there is no looking back. Or you just get in trouble or written up. Again, no cursing or running… just an eerily calm yet stern conversation.

How to eat properly

You don’t have triples in 98 degree heat, you instead have a “snack drawer” in you 70 degree office. You used to be able to eat whatever you wanted whenever you wanted, even 5 Slim Jim’s at 4am! Well now things start to slow down a little, plus you don’t have all summer to workout because you have to earn a living! My schedule used to entail sleeping until whenever I felt like getting up, working out for a few hours (I’m lucky now to get 1 hour in) then I’d go work at the pizzeria for a few hours! So when I still eat like I’m 19 it shows, no only does my mile slow down but my metabolism does too….

Early morning practice is NOT like getting up for work

7:00am practice does not prepare you for the real world no matter what they tell you. I would have practice from 7a to 9a and a class at 9:50 am and I WOULD GO HOME AND NAP!!! Then I would be late to class, still with marks on my face from my pillow then start my day. Well running around for 2 hours/ 5 days a week, does not a work week make. There is no way to compare the two. I have to be alert and competent for 40 hours a week. While hockey, now considered a hobby, was my employer. I would exercise, have meals paid for and spend time with friends. Work is similar in the sense that, it’s not at all…

I can’t skip things for sporting events?

Ever since high school school, we would get pulled from class to go compete in a game. Our schooling was put on hold while we were allowed to leave early so we could prepare. In college we would be gone for a weekend or a day, missing our classes but expected to keep up our grades. Multitasking was a must! So now I don’t get pulled out early so I could go to the gym, well I could, I would just have to use vacation time. But I’d much rather use my vacation time to go shopping or catch up on sleep! I must say I really miss that privilege they should really incorporate something like that at work!


So all my athletes “A champion is someone who gets up when he can’t.” So whether that “up” means out of bed in the morning to walk on the treadmill or continue to train for your 10th marathon, keep it up!


Until next time,


Summer Scarves

So for some reason I am trying to take all of my fall favorites and incorporate them into ALL seasons! Scarves are my go to accessory in the Fall and Winter seasons but they add so much color to an outfit and I think they could be a great summer accessory. The summer scarf makes for an easy and affordable way to dress up your wardrobe. Tie your hair up with it when you’re sitting by the pool and wrap it around your neck when the sun starts to set. Comfy outfits like a T-shirt and jeans, can easily be dressed up with a colorful scarf.

To begin your summer scarf journey, be on the lookout for vintage scarves at your local thrift shops and consignment stores.. Finding cheap, high-quality scarves is ridiculously easy. I also recommend hunting for new handmade ones—there are gobs on Etsy that are positively drool-worthy. See below for some of my favorite places to find Once you’ve built up a happy collection, try to style it your own way!

Just remember the golden rule of scarves: There’s no wrong way to wear one.

But I do have some tips and tricks:

Try to wear bright colors and patterns
You need lighter fabrics- cotton, linen, silk
Scarves are usually tight in the winter so wear them loose in the summer
Tanks to dresses try a scarf all different ways, even how you tie it
A scarf isn’t just for your neck, try it as a head wrap for a effortless boho look


Their Way



So here are some of my favorite places to buy scarves!

Do you like to summer scarf trend or do you think we should keep them for fall and winter?

Let me know what you think I’d love to hear your thoughts and see your ideas on how to style so remember Instagram me @theoxfordguide or email me at theoxfordguide@gmail.com!

Stay cool,


Wellies, Meet Summer!



So Pennsylvania, the land of four seasons, cold being two of them. Even in the middle of July we can still get a cold front leaving you to watch the 4th of July fireworks in jeans and a sweatshirt. So add a little bit of rain and you have one dreary day. This is why we need wellies. Everyone needs a good pair of rain boots because (even though they may not seem it) they are practical. (Another one of my many not right fashion feelings is that) my rain boots should be stored away for the warmer seasons, but I wanted to embrace the light summer styles and incorporate my rubber boots. Here in PA when a storm blows through typically you have a cooler day ahead, but even if we do get to keep 80+ degrees the rain boot protects all of our other shoes from the mud and muck. How do we make the best of it? Grab those wellies and get on with your day!

I am more of a traditional kinda gal, so my wellies are a typical hunter green, but I would have loved them in red and yellow. I think that the bright colored wellies make some outfits especially when they’re coral or teal! They add some fun and color to what otherwise would be a drab day. So whatever color or style you choose, just make sure that you can still splash about even in your favorite summer dress.

Today I am sharing some of my favorite rainy day summer looks. It may not grace the cover of Vogue but I think an outfit with wellies and a topknot is the cutest thing going! So do you already have a pair of wellies to survive rainy summer days? I want to hear how you wear yours!


Their Style:


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When it comes to fashionable rain wear, we luckily have a lot of options. Plenty of designers have their own water-repellent lines to keep you dry from head to toe.

Rain boots accessorize and complete your look, rather than bringing it down. I’m a fan of loud solids or color blocking by brands like Hunter and Burberry. I personally rock my knee-high Hunters with any hint of rain on the forecast and have received compliments on the street for embracing such a bold boot. Short boots are good for those who don’t want the chunky look that a knee high brings. They also show off your style and a bit of color for those who are more on the conservative side.

So now go buy some of your own!

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So don’t let the rain keep you fashionistas down!

Comment below and tell me your favorite ways to wear your rain boots or show me your styles with #togwellies on Instagram!


The Friend Date

You learned to make friends very young. You had something someone else wanted, so you shared, for the most part. It’s a pretty basic concept for most of us. She’s my friend because we both like soccer and the color green. Then you become this dramatic monster in middle school and you start to have friends that grow with your growing interests of shopping, music, boys and hating your parents. As you grow into high school your friends have now developed who you are and by senior year it is like they are asking you to leave your Siamese twin behind. But somehow you make it through and meet more people who develop you and your personality in college.

I found myself in quite a predicament about 3 years ago. All of my best friends were scattered around the continental U.S. and not living in my hometown where I was living… what the hell guys?! So needless to say I was definitely out of my element. I did not have people calling me up to hang out, instead I would travel hours to spend my weekend with my high school and college friends, leaving my family and boyfriend at home. So I hit a slump because I didn’t have friends down the hall, or teammates to get lunch with and I was miserable! It didn’t help either that I didn’t work with anyone my own age.

So after a few months of bitching and moaning and many friendless Saturday nights I sucked it up and put my big girl panties on! It was time I started making some female friends! Well things kinda fell into place quite nicely! I got a new job and began coaching field hockey. My options began to open up a bit! I met some amazing girls while coaching and we are still great friends! Then by the grace of God my best friend from college moved to a town 40 minutes away as opposed to 5 hours!

“Each friend represents a world in us,
a world possibly not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
– Anais Nin

Making friends in your mid 20’s isn’t as simple as “hey I like the Pink Power Ranger and so do you”; well actually as I type this I think it is. Similarities are crucial, do you find the same things humorous, do you enjoy the same activities, does this person’s overall personality annoy the shit out of you or are they kinda funny? These are the Earth shattering questions you have to ask yourself. Plus it all comes down to: do you want to be my friend? Generally, most people my age are settled with all of their friends and aren’t open to bringing in new folk to their crowd. Well, well, well that is just not going to work because I am going to make you like me because I need female interaction!

Girls can be cruel and at first they may not like you because we are EXTREMELY territorial and well, nobody likes when the new girl steps on their turf. For a reference watch the interaction between Rizzo and Sandy in Grease. But eventually you get settled in your own life and you see the true colors of people. And if they want to be your friend they will and if not don’t bother with them!

Opening up yourself to people is scary especially if they haven’t grown with you like your childhood and college friends have. They have seen you at your worst and still love you, the same cannot be said about these “new friends”. You don’t know how they will react to things such as stories of your past or how you act when you have had too much to drink.  A best friend throws your naked ass in the tub and hoses you down. The new friends helps you inside and pending on the type of person they are, talks about you the next day to her besties. So making friends is scary because you want them to accept you for the person you are, because well girlfriend ain’t changing now.

Trying to hang out with “new friends” is like trying to ask someone on a date. You don’t know if they feel the same way and don’t want to make a fool of yourself if you got the wrong impression. Maybe they don’t really like you and were just being polite. You work up the courage to see if they want to get drinks this Friday, and they say yes! One step closer to having someone who will ask you to go get a mani pedi! So when you finally make the decision to hang out there is this underlying pressure to show this person who you really are! But remember if it is meant to be, it will all work out. Some people just aren’t meant to be friends, don’t try to make something work that isn’t there (another dating connection!)

So, always remember, think before you judge. You could be missing out on some pretty incredible people because their “first impression” might not be the best, but this isn’t an interview it’s a new relationship. Give it time, meeting new people is exciting, but keep the cattiness to a minimum until they have actually done something wrong. Allow someone to show you who they are.

Chin up beautiful!


Amazing Stores I Found From Instagram

Social media opens our world up and allows us to venture into places we would have never been able to see, this includes fashion. All of these stores I have found out about through my Instagram account and I am obsessed with each one of them! I literally have a cart started in each store of my favorite things! So enjoy what I have brought to you from Instagram! Happy Shopping!


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The Girl That Loves brings you all the latest trends without breaking the bank! A wardrobe should be the playground of every girl. So, lets play!




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 Here are some more shops that have the most adorable clothes and jewelry a girl could ask for!



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Only Childrenisms

You think “no that’s mine” too often

Your non only child friends totally know your “behaviors” and accept you for your child like tendencies

You spend WAY too much time in your own little world

Eventually you realize that you are the carbon copy of your parents

You pout….

Your parents humor your every action… Like coming to my dogs birthday parties all 3 of them (so far)

Your parent’s house is a shrine to you borderline looking like you died

You spent a lot of time with adults so sometimes kids don’t get you…

People always say:
Were you so spoiled?! I bet you were!
You don’t seem like an only child
Didn’t it suck being alone all the time?
You are SUCH an only child

Whenever you tell people you’re an only child, they start to judge, IMMEDIATELY! I see it all over your faces because some of you are either thinking “Oh that totally makes sense!” or “Man you don’t seem like an only child!” Both are condescending, its like a when a guy says they’re a nurse and you automatically call them a “male nurse”.

No matter how old you get, you’ll still always be an “only child.” It’d be cute if it wasn’t so patronizing like being called a Yankee in Alabama

Famous only children include (according to time) Franklin Roosevelt, Condoleezza Rice, Lance Armstrong, and Frank Sinatra and Jesus. Pretty awesome list and of course all of you reading this and nodding your head after every sentence.

Only children are extremely close to their best friends because they are their brothers and sisters. I am at times self-centered but would give the world to any on I consider a friend, because they are my everything.

However, at times I think only children prefer the company of adults, because well children are immature and CRAZY!

I will always be in my own head to some extent, I get lost in there far too often but I am confortable in there. I can do this all day and not worry about talking to the people around me.


Until next time my loves,