I have tirelessly searched the internet for someone to tell me where I should be at this point in my life. How much should I have in my savings? What the fuck is a 401k? Am I doing ok? Do I need a life coach or rehab? It’s hard to tell and easy to compare. There are people that seem better off but you don’t know their whole story. So my advice worry about you and no one else. Make sure you are living you’re life as the best person you can possibly be.
You paid your bills this month. Better yet you had some month left over for things that aren’t essential for survival, like that Mac lip gloss and Nike running shorts. You were also able to go out to a real dinner have have one to many beers with your friends.
You have a job. It doesn’t matter the hours, or the rate. You are earning an income that allows you to grow and learn and provide for your household. Even if that means helping out with the groceries every so often.
You can afford the small conveniences. A full tank of gas or an iced Dunkin coffee or even lunch that doesn’t include peanut butter. You can allow for these small details in your life.
You have time for you. Which can be anything from a hobby like photography or running to ordering pizza and watching an entire series on Netflix.
You can fix your boo boos. You know when you are getting sick and when you haven’t had enough sleep. You have the ability to make yourself feel better either from heartbreak or sickness or a combo of the two.
You’ve changed.You grow and adapt every day as a human. You learn new things by the hour. Dear god I hope no one is the same person they were a year ago, hell, even a month ago. Celebrate these changes and the knowledge you gained.
You don’t have to worry about your next meal. You have food in your kitchen, even if it’s Hot Pockets and Rahman noodles you have options. You have groceries that cover your nutritional components and your favorite snacks.
You have one/two actual friends. People worry about the quantity but eventually realize the number of people you can claim to be your friends has no bearing on your life. At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know and love us no matter what.
You have a space of your own. This isn’t always a home or an apartment but that’s great if it is.. All you need is an area, desk or hideaway, where life is at your discretion. You can get lost in your weird little world.
You live beyond the bare minimum. You’ve been to a concerts and movies, you buy books for yourself, you could take a weekend trip if you wanted. You don’t have to work all hours of the day to survive.
You have a variety of clothing. There is no worrying that you will be cold once winter hits and you even have a few bathing suits to choose from once the weather warms up. Dresses for a night out and several types of shoes, especially some for when you’re feeling sassy.
You’ve been through some shit. And hey look you’ve come out alright. And you’ll go through more shit and guess what? You’ll be alright then too.