I admire personal style. From the streets of Paris, to the girl wearing a bird on her head, it speaks volumes about someone who stays true to themselves. So, there is nothing that irritates me more than a girl who is not confident enough to have her own style. They become a carbon copy of the people they surround themselves with. You can easily spot these people because usually they are dressed very similar and act in the same ways. So one girl is trying to be her own person, while the other is the “parasite”. The most awkward part of it, is that people notice the change. People see that you now have the same hair cut and are wearing similar outfits.
When you’ve got something great going on, people notice and unfortunately some can’t resist jumping on your super-cool bandwagon. But if you understand why other girls are taking your style, then you can figure out what to do about it.
And let’s face it: We’ve all been guilty at one point or another of copying our friends. My sixteen year old self would tell you how much I wanted to wear exactly what the cool girls were wearing. They were pretty and popular, who wouldn’t want to look at them? Everything they were about made me want to copy them, shoes on their feet to their naughty saying AE tees.
But sometimes you’re looking at a living example of a psychologists wet dream. You know the girl who runs out to buy the same top you said you liked the weekend before, the girls who all of a sudden likes the same bands and worst of all the girl who tries to covet YOU, the language you use, the clothes you wear and the attitude you hold. So what do you do? Let it go? Stop talking to them? Scream?!
So my reaction would be the latter but I know my mom would tell me “if she copies you it means she likes your style”. I think that people imitate those they admire in hopes that their personality will magically rub off. Also, girls who copy tend to have a lower self-esteem. They don’t know how to be themselves, so they copy. If I like a shirt a friend is wearing so much I buy it myself, I twist it my own way.
So, if copykitty persists in her evil ways, and tries to use the lame old excuse that: “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery,” thank her for the compliment and all, but explain that she’s more likely to achieve fabulousness by being herself than by trying to be someone else.
But to be fair, imitation is human nature. Without consciously realizing it, we copy looks we see in magazines, on television, and in popular culture that surrounds us. It’s how trends are born. From leather pants to overalls, we copy looks that we think will fit our personal style or how we want to be perceived. Those who determine trends, fashion designers and magazine editors, know many seasons ahead of the rest of us what we’re all going to be wearing. They know it because they decide it. They determine how and what we will wear and when we wear it. It just takes you to twist it into your own.
Don’t be afraid to be different – we need individualism in this world. That’s what gives us our personality, stand out and be bold!