You are in charge of the life you want to live. If you’re in a bad mood you are the one who can change that, no one else. Don’t ruin your day or someone else’s because you had a rough morning. Get over yourself.
Giving someone at least one honest compliment per day, about something other than their weight if possible. (Even if someone lost weight, it’s much better to say “You look great!” rather than comment directly on the pounds, because that often comes with a lot of baggage.)
Not obsessing over the stupid/embarrassing thing you said two years ago to keep you from sleeping or make you freak out in the shower. (My technique with this one is to actually say the thing out loud, laugh at myself, and force myself to think about something else.)
Calling, texting, emailing, or in some way acknowledging your parents and find out what they’re up to today/let them know that you love them.
Writing down a list — ideally on a dry erase board or something, where you can see it every day — of the things you need to do. And actually going through this list, one by one, and checking them off. I promise, it feels almost better than sex to see the whole thing crossed out.
Telling a friend you love them, or you’re thinking about them, or you hope they’re doing well.
Saying “thank you” when someone does something little-but-kind throughout your day. When someone compliments, helps you grab something, or lets you go first, they didn’t have to do that, and making sure to thank them will make them want to do it more.
Putting more fruits and vegetables on your plate, and eating those first before treating yourself to the less-healthy things. Making the choice to eat better is often very simple, and only involves being more smart about what you put in front of you
.Answering your text messages right away (even if they stress you out), because you know how you feel when someone leaves you hanging. Also, you have a tendency to say “I’ll get to this later” and then forget about it completely, and that’s just rude.
Putting your alarm across the room so that you have to get up and go turn it off and can’t accidentally hit “off” in your sleep and never actually wake up.
Listening to music for the mood you want to be in, instead of the mood you actually are in. If you want to cheer yourself up, don’t sulk with the playlist from your angst years — put on some Disney soundtracks!
Do something for someone that you would make them smile. Hold the door open
Saying “hi” to your neighbors when you see them, and maybe even asking how their day was because, come on, you basically live together.
Preparing breakfasts, snacks, or lunches to take with you throughout the week. There’s only one way to avoid paying a lot of money to eat terribly at the last minute, and that’s by planning ahead.
Even if you’re having a bad day smile back at the toddler who is waving at your from their stroller. Kids are perfect, in that they think most people are generally good and nice, so don’t shatter that image by frowning or looking away from them.
Find the positive it every person you meet, every situation you encounter and everywhere you go. Life is too short to hold so much negativity in the way of happiness.
Remind yourself that you are not perfect, that no one is, and that it should never be your goal. The more you compare yourself to people you think are happier or more successful, the more you turn them into characters and not human beings. Every single person you pass on the street is real and has their own story. Don’t take anything at face value.
I hope everyone had a safe and happy new year! Cheers to another great year! Here’s to 2016!