Head, Shoulders, Knees & Toes

1.To be accepting of what you see in the mirror today, even if you want to change it for the better. It is important to accept where you are right now.

2. To respect your body in all the ways you can. And to reflect often on what you need that to mean to you.

3. To learn to be okay with, and to work to eventually embrace, the parts of your body you love the least. Because these parts are still a part of you, and they probably need the most affection.

4. To refrain from abusing your body as much as you can – whether it’s in what you consume, how you talk about it, what you do with it, and what you don’t do with it.

5. To forgive yourself and your body for the times you do not treat it well. And to remember that you are human, and it will always be an on-going struggle to treat your body the way it deserves to be treated.

6. To refuse to compare what you look like, and what your body can do, with someone else’s. Realize that your only goal when it comes to your body, is to do your best

7. To ensure that you’re fueling and feeding your body with the right nutrients as much as possible. And yes, this may be a sacrifice of time, money, and education. But it is worth it.

8. To give your body rest, and to make it a habit to give it rest. And not just when you are completely exhausted or sick. Rest is not laziness, rest is necessary. Rest keeps you going.

9. To move with your body whether that means running, swimming, walking, biking, dancing, lifting, yoga, and stretching. If it is able, let your body move.

10. To refrain from judging your body by the unrealistic standards society, and the people around you, have set. Recognize that these judgments are mostly arbitrary, and don’t have your best interests at heart.

11. To enjoy your body and what your body can do. And to get accustomed to thinking of your body in a positive light rather than beating it down with only negative thoughts and words.

12. To never become obsessed with the physical appearance of your body. And to remember that there is more to the body than the social constructions we inflict on the physical.

13. To challenge your body. Whether that means cleaning it out from time to time with a short fast or doing a different exercise from the one you’re used to. Your body, like your mind, gets used to habits. And once in a while, it needs a shocking, good change.

14. But also to accept that your body, like any body, has limitations. Don’t let these limitations discourage you, let them be what they are – limitations that show you that you’ve come to your best.

15. To never let the body that you have, and the perfections and imperfections that go with it, define who you are.

16. In the words of a sign I recently came across, to ultimately always, “treat your body like it belongs to somebody you love.” (Because it does belong to somebody you should love.)

17. And above all, in any and all moments, to honor these words, “You don’t have a soul. You are a soul; you have a body.”

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Fri- YAY or NAY: NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream

The NYX soft matte lip cream is available in thirty-four different shades to choose from. The texture of this cream is a bit velvety with a silky sheen to it, but it settles down perfectly into a matte finish. NYX has recently added twelve more astounding shades to this product line.

I am obsessed with these lip creams. By far this is my most reached for product on a daily basis. As a matte kinda girl, this lightweight formula, pretty opaque, non-drying and cream consistency just makes my everyday makeup routine easy and fast.

I most recently purchased three different colors: Stockholm, Monte Carlo and my all time favorite Copenhagen. This product wears so well- even with the darker shades. The Soft Matte Lip Creams were everything I imagined and more. They glide on like a dream and dries down to a comfortable, long wearing matte finish. They are neither a lipstick nor a gloss but a wonderful, in-between product that feels creamy and lightweight to apply and gives an amazing color payoff.

My thoughts.

The NYX soft matte lip cream has a rich, creamy texture, and it comes with an applicator that works nicely and precisely for a perfect application. The best way to wear this lip cream is by applying two to three coats- especially for the darker shades. You might feel a slight glossiness on your lips but once the cream settles down it would turns a matte finish. For all of my girls that like to continuously rub your lips together (to make sure the product is still there) but never found a matte that moves the way you need it to- this is for you. It has the color of a lipstick but the smoothness of LipSmackers.

One problem is that the product builds up on the applicator’s sponge and it might result in excessive usage of the product. The only true negative review I have is that it does not last as long as a lipstick or sheer gloss. Since you need to keep applying for full application you’re looking at a lifespan of about 3 to 4 weeks. However the price is perfect for buying more than one.

Matte finish always looks dry, the fine lines usually gives this matte finish and we don’t want that flaky and chappy type of dry. Glad to say that this does not dry your lips. With a lip balm as a base also help the hydration even better. It evenly coats your lips for a perfect application.

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The Monetary Wedding Gift

“Well, you need to make sure you cover your plate.”

“I’m going to give less if I go to a backyard BBQ!”

“Are you bringing a date?”

Since beginning the process of planning a wedding we have heard that we will never “make back” what we are putting into this wedding.I have a big family and since I was a little girl I never thought of the dress, the ring, or the cake- I thought about my family and friends gathering around and enjoying each others company. We can hardly all get together any more and what better than a wedding! However- the wedding gift is always a hot topic.

I am at the age where wedding invites start to pile up, the dollar signs start to flash: destination weddings; bachelor and bachelorette parties; and gifts, gifts, and more gifts. The idea of having to spring for flights, hotels, bridesmaid dresses, and a present for each occasion can be a serious source of stress. Complicating matters more is the seeming lack of concrete rules for gift giving. After all, “How much should I spend on a wedding gift?” seems to be the most often asked gift-giving question.

For myself and many others, that total is just another number in the chaotic mathematics of gift giving, a calculation in which what to give, and how much, is downright bewildering. It seems that the most common equation really consists of three portions: Reception location + Covering your plate(s) and bar tab + number of attendees = the Perfect Gift.

I don’t care about the money. I want you at my wedding because I love you and want you to be a part of my special day. I don’t want to use the word greedy but some couples have become so overly concerned with the size of the gift that it’s inevitability used against you. I have heard brides say “Well she only gave [X amount], so I am giving her as much as she gave me!” I makes me sad- this personal monetary vendetta.

I find it really appalling when a bride/groom looks at a gift and expresses their discuss that a couple, a friend, a family member did not do their part in pulling their weight to help pay off someones wedding. A lot of people say that covering your plate and alcohol is a standard way to calculate a gift, but it’s not. It’s not tradition and it’s not universal. People should give according to their relationship and their means.

Here’s my thought on the whole thing.

The closer you are to the bride or groom, the more you are expected to give, and do not ever give more than you can afford just because of the expectations. The location and cost of the reception should not be the burden of the guest. Don’t have a wedding that you can’t pay for on your own. My gift is not meant to fund your party. It is a present that represents our relationship and the path that brought us to this point. Like any other gift given it represents something that I want to offer you.

What should be most important to the couple is everyone having an amazing day, especially the two that this entire event is about. So enjoy your friends and families and don’t think about what’s inside those cards.

Communication: BFF Style

1. One solitary moment of eye contact.

Even if it’s a nano-second, one small look from your BFF and suddenly, you understand everything. It’s kind of like you have this badass superpower, all telepathic and shit. Your eyes lock and BAM, you know what they’re thinking. You’ve basically had an entire conversation within a few seconds. It’s terrifying for the people around you.

2. Small change in tone.

Certain people are incredibly perceptive to even the tiniest changes in body language, tone, etc. But with your BFF it’s maximized. A crack in their voice, a break, up or down an octave, YOU WILL NOTICE. And you’ll know it means something is up- that hot guy from work walks by, that girl from the gym you hate just walked into the bar- any scenario they’ll pick up on it!

3. You don’t lie

Best friends cannot lie to each other. Because A) you shouldn’t want to lie to your best friend and B) YOU WILL NOT GET AWAY WITH IT. The rest of the world may be fooled, but your BFF knows you far too well. Plus they were more than likely at the event you are lying to people about.

4. They always know what you mean

Things like “Remember that guy from the movie I love?” and they know exactly who it is your mean because they were right next to you in the theater as your professed your unrealistic love for said person. They know what you mean when you’re a terrible story teller and will always get where you’re going with a story that as nothing to do with what you’re talking about.

5. Not even looking at each other, but knowing what they’re thinking.

Particularly if you were ever in class together. You became pros at never looking at one another, but still *feeling* them from a distance. Something ridiculous would happen and you couldn’t possibly look their way because you would both instantly die from laughter. But without even looking, you still knew the other one was suppressing giggles or even a simple “I know” text will cover it.

6. Complete gibberish.

Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe you’re drunk. Maybe you don’t have an excuse as to why you can’t form complete sentences. Doesn’t really matter. You both speak gibberish fluently when you’re together. They’re almost like your translator for the world.

7. Clothing choice.

When you guys start getting ready together and you put on the little black skirt- no questions asked they know you’re going dancing! They know what it means when you wear that one big oversized grey sweatshirt. And they will be over with ice cream and B-list romcoms, STAT.

Your best friends just know you. They will forever understand you. They will love you not matter what because that is why they were put into your life. These people are a blessing, never let them get away because no one fullfills your life like your best friend.

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