Valentine’s Day: Harry Potter


To My Future Daughter

My friends (and I guess myself technically) are at the age where they are having babies and raising these perfect little beings. While I am not ready to take on such a task I found myself thinking how important it is to raise good people. I remember when a good friend of mine got pregnant, it’s been amazing seeing her and her daughter together. It got me thinking about my future children, especially if we have a girl.

Being sensitive, even though I’m pushing thirty, there are things my mother always told me but of course from the age of 13-17 I knew everything there was to know in the world so I never listened. My mom never stopped trying- telling me over and over, being that person I could always run home too. So here are a few lessons I want to teach my future little girl- even if you don’t listen in the here and now, you will eventually.

1. What Susie says about Sally, says a lot more about Susie than it does Sally.

Girls will be girls will be girls will be girls- even when they’re 40. There are people you think you need in your life but eventually you learn to who is needed and who isn’t. Some people only bring negative energy that is more toxic than uplifting. Girls are mean. For some it’s a stage, for others it’s a lifestyle. You cannot control what they say about you, but you can control how you respond. Silence is the best weapon. From someone who’s been there, trust me, no response is the best response.

2. When you’re upset, stay away from your cell phone.

Nobody ever says anything nice when they’re mad, sad, or hurt. Nobody ever posts anything nice on social media, either. If you need to vent, write it down on a piece of paper and throw it away or come to me! You’ll still get it off your chest, but your hurtful words won’t linger in the aftermath. There’s no sense in giving someone else the power of getting the best of you. When you wake up in the morning, don’t check your phone for a text that probably won’t be there. Get out of bed and stay away from the phone. I am aware that this is much easier said than done, but I’ve been there, and hurtful words won’t make the hurtful actions disappear. Breathe in, breathe out, move on.

3. You are more than your body.

When a boy only calls you at 2am after a few beers, it’s not because he thinks you have a really nice personality. He likes what he sees, and that’s the only thing on his mind. The attention might make you feel good, but seriously, respect yourself. It doesn’t make you anymore of a grown up. It won’t gain you any friends, in fact, those people you think you will gain- stay away from. Never give a part of yourself away to someone who doesn’t deserve it. You are valuable, and you are more than your body. Be intelligent enough to differentiate between love and lust. If you find yourself questioning their intentions for even a moment, walk away. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT.

4. I know you’re not really sick.

You’re either avoiding someone at school, avoiding a test at school, or avoiding waking up. I practically wrote the book on excuses to get out of school. You’re not fooling me, even though I’m sure you’ll put on quite the production trying to convince me otherwise if you’re anything like me. It may seem easier to lay around the house for the day and hide from the world, but avoiding what you don’t want to face typically just makes it harder. Also, things are never as bad as they seem. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and be thankful for another day; you are blessed.

5. You will get your heart broken, and it will hurt.

Boyfriends sound like a lot more fun than they actually are. Sure it’s fun to have someone to go see that new movie with, someone to pay for your meals, and someone who makes you feel special. When you find your first love, you will feel on top of the world. Seriously, you will feel like you’re floating on clouds. You’ll think you’ve found the one, and honestly some people do (good for them!) I am begging you to not get so caught up in him that you forget how to make yourself happy, by yourself. Once you venture down the road of depending on him for happiness, it’s a long way back. Your first love won’t be your only love, but the breakup will rock your world. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be sad. It’s not okay to feel like you weren’t enough. It will take time, and it might take a lot of time, but it will get better.

6. When you find “your person,” don’t lose them.

There’s going to be someone who can finish your sentences, tell you the truth when you don’t want to hear it, and stand by you when you make really stupid decisions. This person is more than your best friend, they are your person. You are going to fight but don’t go months without talking. Don’t make this mistake, just say you’re sorry. You’re going to have other really good friends, too. Make sure you let them know how much you appreciate their friendship; they are important, too. But your person will connect with you on a different level. They will understand you when you don’t understand yourself, and you will form a bond that nothing can break. It is possible to find a soulmate in someone other than the person you marry, and it’s pretty awesome.

7. It’s okay to stay home.

You aren’t lame for choosing your bed over a party on a Friday night. There will be other parties, and I promise you aren’t missing much. It’s okay that you want to be alone. It’s okay to stay home and watch movies. It’s okay that you’re not in the mood to go out. It’s okay.

8. If they miss you, they’ll do something about it.

Still hung up on that break up? It takes time. “But Mom, I really love him.” I’m sure you do. I know that nothing I say will take away the hurt, but my arms will always be wide open, and I’ll keep plenty of Kleenex boxes in stock. I know what it feels like. I’ll make you an ice cream sundae, but I’ll understand when you don’t have the appetite to eat it. I will tell you this, if he misses you, he will do something about it. Because if he’s missing you and doing nothing, he’s not the one. Even if he finds the courage to say he misses you, it’s okay to not want him back. Your heart will heal. Do not settle. You’ll make a million excuses for him, I know. But please remember this; if he wants to be with you, he will prove it.

9. People make mistakes, especially the people you love.

I will make mistakes, so will your dad, so will your brother or sister, so will your friends. Your teachers and coaches will make mistakes, too. Everyone will make mistakes. You will make them, too, lots and lots as a matter of fact. Do not stop loving people when they screw up. The people you love and that love you will probably make some of the worst mistakes. Learn to forgive, especially if you expect others to forgive you. Part of growing is making mistakes. Part of loving is forgiving. My dear, the ugliest people are the ones who do not know how to forgive. Don’t carry around grudges, and always, ALWAYS, be the bigger person.

To the woman who helped shape me and made me who I am- I hope to be half of the mother you are.


Feelings You Forgot Are Wonderful

  1. When you’re running super late for work, but you still somehow manage to get there before your boss, so it doesn’t even matter.
  2. The moment when you’ve had to pee all night, so you finally get up and do it and then you get to crawl back into your warm bed.
  3. Taking off your bra after a long day.
  4. …and your pants.
  5. When your plane lands safely on the runway and you can let out a sigh of relief because you’re back on the ground.
  6. Getting out of the shower after a much needed scrubbing- nothing quite like that freshness.
  7. When you’re thinking about someone and then they text you in that same moment.
  8. Waking up after a night of drinking and realizing you’re not as hungover as you feared that you were going to be.
  9. When you have plans with someone and you really don’t feel like going, and then they text you and cancel.
  10. Finally getting that thing out of your eye that’s been irritating you for the last half hour.
  11. Waking up from a really lovely dream and remembering it!
  12. When you can’t play your music when you’re running errands, because you don’t have the right equipment, but then your favorite song comes on the radio.
  13. Opening your fridge after you went shopping the day before.
  14. When you accidentally leave the shades up, so you wake up with the sun shining on your face.
  15. Unexpectedly experiencing a pleasant scent you haven’t come across in a long time, especially if it’s one that reminds you of your childhood.
  16. When someone is really good at scratching your back.
  17. Hearing someone laugh to the point that it makes you laugh just by listening to them.
  18. Feeling your heart rate come back down to normal after you ran to catch a bus or a train or a plane and you get to sit down in your seat and relax.
  19. Changing the clocks ahead one hour in the spring and knowing that those super short, dark days are over for the time being.
  20. When there’s something you needed to get done that you really didn’t feel like doing, but you did it anyway and now you get to cross it off your list.
  21. The rush of relief you feel after you throw up from a bad stomach bug or hangover. So gross, and yet so much relief.
  22. When you’re in public and you remember something funny and you can’t help but start laughing to yourself.
  23. Discovering a new song you’re obsessed with and playing it over and over and over.
  24. Opening your underwear drawer and remembering that you have a bunch of different options because you just did your laundry.
  25. Watching something on tv and remembering you can fast forward through the commercials because you recorded it.
  26. When your boss asks you a question and you’re actually prepared with an answer and don’t sound like an idiot.
  27. Thinking you forgot to bring something important and then finding it in your bag after a brief moment of panic.
  28. When you’re sleeping next to your person and they hold on to you so tight.
  29. Seeing someone familiar when you’ve just moved to a new city.
  30. When you put on a song at a party and it seems to be the exact song that every other person at this party wanted to hear in this moment.
  31. Pouring a cold beer into a frosty mug.
  32. When you find out something really exciting, but you’re by yourself, so you kind of just make a tiny little squeal or flap your arms around.
  33. Going to sleep in your own bed after you’ve been out of town.
  34. Taking a sick day from work when you’re not really sick.
  35. Walking down a pretty street in the springtime when everything is blooming and the air is warm.
  36. When you wake up and think it’s time for work but then you realize it’s only three in the morning and you can go back to sleep.
  37. Taking off your wet socks after coming in from the rain or snow.
  38. Sitting down on the couch or taking a nice, slow walk after you just had a really good workout.
  39. Climbing into your bed after you washed your sheets and everything smells like fresh linen.
  40. Finding a crumpled twenty dollar bill in that jacket you haven’t worn in months.
  41. Getting a hand written note in the mail.
  42. Walking into work on the day before your vacation starts.
  43. Being in a social situation with a bunch of different people that you love being around.
  44. When you couldn’t decide between several different meals at the restaurant and then your food comes and you feel like you made the right choice after taking just one bite.
  45. Drinking a glass of wine at the airport bar, while you’re waiting for the trip you’ve been counting down to for months.

Put Your Cell Phones Away!

I’ll set the tone. Donnie and I have been together for the better part of 10 years (almost). Comfort levels have been well established — but instead of wanting to know how my day went, he wants to know the current standings of the NFL and instead of me asking how his big presentation went I check to see how many likes my staged picture on Instagram got. We just spent an hour making a beautiful meal (that I’ll Snapchat later) and have opened a bottle of my favorite wine to appropriately complement it. We sit down at the table with a candle lit and our iPhones remain as the third wheel. I’m eating with a fork in my right hand and scrolling with my left (I am not ambidextrous so you can imagine this is an easy task). I struggle, but manage.

But seriously! Do we ever fully return our undivided attention to our companion, or is half our brain still scanning the digital world for information? There is no rest for the screen-stimulated brain.

The more we allow our device to control our attention, the more we feel like we are missing out on something, and this is certainly not a feeling we welcome. Aside from life-and-death emergencies, and other such situations where we require instantaneous feedback, the information will be there whether we address our device every ten minutes, every hour, or once a day.

Have we totally forgotten our manners? Disengaging from the people you are sitting with at a dinner table is something our parent’s would shame us for.

1. Cell phones have become our crutch.

Not many people will argue this. Who wants to live with something you are utterly dependent on? Think about what we use our phones for now. Directions, browsing photos of strangers, checking the weather two weeks in advance, texting our friends, scheduling our lives, playing games, using Twitter, Snapchat, Facebook, the list goes on and on. Basically, our cell phones have become a one-stop-shop for everything we need to do in life.

Don’t get me wrong, all of the aforementioned things are essential to any person living a modern day life, but there are other ways we can go about completing these tasks. Ways that a more directly connected generation (reference your parents) had managed to live with.

Taking Pictures. Does anyone keep a photo album anymore? What if Facebook were to suddenly crash and all of the precious photos from your high school days were gone forever? I’d like to hold on to my memories of a 2007 toga house party, and that time I spent with my friends after prom!

Talking to friends. Call them, go visit them, have lunch or coffee with them. Conversation is stimulating. Wouldn’t you rather see their lovely face then read the words they sent you via text message? We too often pass up these opportunities to go be with our friend’s because of the simplicity there is in just texting them.

Scheduling. Write in a planner like your 10-years-old again. Call it an experiment.

Playing games. Go play Scrabble or get aggressive over a game of monopoly. There’s more competitiveness in it when you play with people and not just yourself.

Disconnect, I dare you.

2. Our poor children don’t stand a chance.

As technology continues to advance our children will become less connected on personal levels and more connected on technological ones. I think we’ve all made the joke by now that our kids will see an iPhone 5 the way we see Zack Morris’ prehistoric device. If that’s the case, what kind of unimaginable piece of technology will our children be using?

When I needed to do a school project, I went to the library on my bike and made copies of books and encyclopedias to paste on my poster board. My mom would patiently wait as I meticulously would hand write captions under my photocopied pictures. There were no easy answers that Google could provide.

If I wanted to see a friend from school, I picked up my home phone and called their home phone and asked their parents if they could come out and play. Or even better, I’d walk to their house and knock on the door. I feel like everyone knows a family now that doesn’t even bother with home phone because everyone in their unit has a cell phone instead. We don’t have a home phone- I wouldn’t answer it just like I don’t answer my door when someone knocks on it unexpectedly.

God knows my children are going to think I’m a fossil, or worse, they won’t even be able to comprehend why I would encourage them to do such things because by then cell phones will be so second nature. How can we be examples for our children when it comes to personal interaction if we don’t value these ideals ourselves?

3. There is so much natural beauty in the world that we are missing.

Vacations have become a way of clogging Instagram feeds that make non-vacationing people feel awful. You’re supposed to do that when you get back, remember? Vacations were designed for us to get away from our stresses and relax. My fiance once yelled at me for wanting to pull over the car on a road trip so I could take a photo of something. The response I got was a pained, “Ugh, can’t you just remember it?” The answer is yes, yes we can.

Go ahead; take some vacation photos for the previously mentioned photo album but please, can we  spend more time going for walks, enjoying the company of our loved ones and soaking up the aura of beautiful landscapes with nothing more than our minds.

4. Nothing is private anymore.

Imagine our parents and their parents before them. They knew who they knew and that was it. A new face came with a one-on-one interaction. They went about their days for however many years and everything they ever did was for them, their families, and their friends to know about and remember. There weren’t 1,000 other people watching their every move. Unless you were of celebrity status, a life was a private thing. They had no idea what their sister’s friends girlfriends newborn looked like, nor did they care. They had no idea what the person in their English class looked like half-naked unless they took them on a date first. There was a whole world of things going on around them and they were blissfully unaware. Call it a mystery but look at this way, there was more to discover.5. We don’t know the last effects.

If it’s not enough that cell phones are unhealthy addictions, how about that they may be unhealthy to us in a physical sense. They create electromagnetic fields, and we haven’t lived with them long enough to determine the long-term health effects they may have on us. The hypochondriac in me panics a little every time my boyfriend puts his work phone and his personal phone in the SAME pocket. Here’s to hoping we aren’t making the same mistake we made with promoting tobacco 65 years ago.

I challenge you to put your phone down for an entire day. If you manage to live through it, put it down for an entire week. At least give yourself the opportunity to be independent and not have to succumb to a device for 3.9 years of your life.


As We Go On,We Remember…

You do nothing but talk about how great things were in the 90’s and how there will never be another decade like it. You can’t help but think your age group is superior to others, because it is. You know the 90’s decade was a fundamental piece in our history. You’ll never stop living in the 90’s because, why in the hell would you? Enjoy the nostalgia.

1. At one point, you were the proud owner of a bean bag chair. Or two. You may have even had some blowup furniture from Spencer’s (looked killer under a black light).

2. You probably had a blue, purple, green, or red transparent cordless phone. Mine was purple- green was sold out.

3. You still remember watching VHS tapes and the struggle of rewinding them. Blockbuster was a regular pit stop on your way home from school on Fridays. Also it was always a great night out walking up and down the aisles looking for something new to watch- only to get the same old movies you watched 100 different times.

4. You easily recall the sound of dial up internet and the hours it felt like trying to get online. Patiently waiting to hear, “you’ve got mail.”

5. Signing onto AIM was a daily regimen. Only so you could make a cool “away” status.

“if u WeRe hOmEwOrK, iD b doin U rite now ;)” Lord.

6. Britney was and is your hero and Queen. You still own all her albums as well, or at least you should. #teamBritney

7. You had the coolest collection of gel pens. They were absolutelyessential to your notes passed to your friends in class. Especially when you had a tablet full of black paper.

8. Your bedroom ceiling was decorated with glow in the dark stars and planets.

9. Pogs and slammers were life. I even had some from Ponderosa and Hillside Farm.

10. The Walkman was a staple piece in your outfit. I knew what clothing I could fit my CD player in or if I needed to grab my JanSport.

11. You’re still listening to Third Eye Blind, Matchbox 20, Alanis Morisette, Jewel, Pearl Jam, The Verve, Goo Goo Dolls, etc. because 90’s music is the only music worth listening to.

12. Your favorite Christmas movies: Home Alone, Home Alone 2: Lost in New York, The Nightmare Before Christmas, To Grandmother’s House We Go, Die Hard 2, and Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas (the original).

13. Your favorite t.v. shows include (but are not limited to): The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Friends, Saved by the Bell, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Full House, Dawson’s Creek, Beverly Hills 90210, Clarissa Explains It All, and The Wonder Years.

If you were born in the late 80’s to early 90’s, you know you’re one of the lucky ones. There are a multitude of things that made the 90’s the best. And since Y2K didn’t wipe us out, may your mind live in this era forever.

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My Thoughts: Tanning

I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been to the beach, or been in the sun at all for that matter this past summer. I work full-time and my legs are so pale that they’re actually reflective on the rare occasions I do go outside during the day. I often get the itch to look like I spend eight hours a day sun bathing, never burning, and becoming as close to a “bronzed beach babe” as I can get.

When one of my bests was having her bachelorette party I tried to catch up to everyone else’s normal skin tones. I haven’t tanned in close to 10 years because my infant like skin tone doesn’t really like the sun. But I know that we would be outside A LOT and since the last thing I wanted to worry about was the sun-I decided tan. While I don’t condone this at all I needed a quick fix.

When you’re enclosed in a human microwave, left with nothing but your thoughts and the smell of your burnt skin- things can get pretty weird.

How many bare bottoms have been here today?

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“I wonder if they ACTUALLY cleaned the bed?” It’s always a question but it never seems to stop me from laying my bare body onto the potentially infected surface. It usually pops into my head as I begin to feel the puddle of sweat forming underneath me- to the point where I worry if I need another towel.

Ew, why is the bed still warm?

Something about a cold bed is more comforting than an uncomfortably warm reminder that you weren’t the only naked person to lay here in the last 5 minutes.

What if I got stuck in here?

Whenever this thought crosses my mind, I have to lift the bed a little bit to make sure it’ll still open and will let me out. I don’t want to be the girl from final destination.

How long have I been in here?

I know only the first verse of Shake It Off is still playing but 8 minutes has to have gone by? At this point I start to get a bit squirmy- I never understood how people could doze off. Could you imagine if the had to wake you?!

Is it weird that I like the way tanning salon’s smell?

My calves are literally burning. And there is def a mix of burning skin and coconut radiating from my room.

Can the woman at the desk hear me talking to myself?

Yes- she can. She can also see that you keep opening the lid (like a can of tuna) checking to see if your stuck.

What would happen if there were cameras in here?

Someone would be really entertained- even though that is 100% illegal.
Maybe MTV will do show about it….

I hope I put enough lotion on. Maybe I should get out and put on more!

No matter how much you think you used, you should always use more.
Somehow its better and you get more tan. I feel like it’s like marinade on chicken.

If I lay facing left for a minute then I’m going to have to lay facing right for a minute, right?

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Tan symmetry.

Am I golden yet?

I’m a little less bronze goddess and a little more newborn baby pink but hey my little palm tree on my hip says that it’s working!

If I put my face closer to the bulbs will it tan faster?

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NO! This theory is not a concept anyone should try.

I hope I don’t get that white line under my butt.

So I wiggle down a little bit to make sure my whole tush is tanned and toasty. Nothing like a burned booty to make you wish you had gone in the stand-up.

Who even invented Wink-Ease?

Eyewear for peasants

I love being tan!

I have to admit- it’s my clandestine lover.

I confess the depths of our relationship guiltily, in secrets. I know it can hurt me. I know our love may not end well. But I’m addicted. It feels so good I just keep coming back. Nothing can please me quite the same way. Nothing else knows just how to relax me, seduce me, slow me down. I feel so much prettier in the glow of our love. I radiate health. I look like I’ve just returned from a lazy sunny vacation.

BUT come summer, those of us who remain pale — by choice or by genetics — are going to be the lepers of the pool party. People will mock our pasty thighs and pink shoulders, and we’ll have to take it like adults because society still thinks we would be more beautiful if we sat in the sun until we were nice and golden-brown.



It’s the Joy, the Pain and the Roar of the Crowd

The whistle blows, double overtime is about to start, second round of sudden death. You’re exhausted but you know that you just need to give it your all a little while longer. The field looks bigger when there are only 7 of you. You’re wide open, receive a perfect pass, beat the defender and slam the ball into the back of the goal. You smile, jump high in the air and can’t wait to run over to where you know all of your teammates will be eagerly awaiting your arrival. The celebration is about to begin.

However, instead of playing for the gold at the Olympics, it was your final intramural game, winner gets a t-shirt that usually doesn’t fit. Your teammates have mismatched tees on- Nike isn’t sponsoring this and ESPN definitely isn’t covering your game winning goal but something inside drives you to compete to the best of your ability. It’s your love of the game- no one can take that away from you.

You will never have this feeling again, the rush of receiving a ball you never thought you could catch – your heart won’t beat with that type of adrenaline that comes with flying out on a corner after the final whistle blows. Nothing will feel like scoring that game winning goal taking your team into post season. For all of those who have loved and left our sports behind- this is for you.

I see you running your heart out on the field, your braid bobbing, your face all kinds of determined to win. You love to play and compete, and each game gives you a reason to stick with it and learn more. That’s your competitive heart—the desire to be the best. I have two important words for you.

Keep going.

The end comes quickly- I hate to sound like your mom’s weird friend but these days will go by fast. I miss the feeling of walking onto the turf, playing under the lights, hearing your name ring throughout the stadium, the genuine applause when your team takes home the win. I can remember it like it was yesterday- the rush of the wind as I stood on the field, adjusting my turfs and spandex, getting ready for that first whistle. I can hear the muffled mouth-guard shouts, the cheers, the voices surrounding me, pushing me forward. I remember the way the sun felt on my shoulders, the first major play I made, the jolt in my arms as I made contact with the ball as it floated perfectly to my teammate, my sister. It takes place now almost in slow-motion, coming to the realization that it’s all in the past.

Though it feels like you’ve been playing your whole life, and that you will keep playing forever, this is it. It isn’t bad, it’s beautiful. The memories, the games, the pain, the tears, the exhaustion, the fights, the friendships—they’re all meaningful.

Remember the rush you get as the ball hits the backboard, the ache in your body as your push yourself for just a few more minutes and flying as high as your wings will take you after a well fought victory. When you’re passing, receiving, hitting you’re unstoppable. You were never the best, the fastest, the most skilled but you loved this sport- it was a part of you. You won’t forget those days and the relationships you made with those girls you called teammates because at the end of it all they made you into the person you are today.

I never will forget how my stick feels in my hands- it’s like an extension of my body. I know it better then I know myself. The feeling when you step onto that pitch, you will look at the lights, memorize the way they glow on the faces of the crowd who are cheering for you, believing in you. It’s catching those familiar voices saying “that’s my girl!” there will never been another feeling like stepping off that turf and playing a flawless game.

My days are done now. I have played, I have practiced, I have pushed myself physically and mentally beyond my limits, I have succeeded, and I have failed. I gave everything I had to a game that could not be mine forever, but I don’t regret a single second.

Play with confidence. Play with heart. And don’t ever forget that these days will soon come to an end. So give it your all because these feelings don’t last forever.





I Believe In…

Love that is true and pure and scary and exciting. I hope that everyone gets to experience it!

Music that makes you think and feel and breathe a little bit differently for a long time after you first hear it.

Champagne for no reason and that being weak in the knees is a good thing. Unless you are a runner, in which case I believe you need more calcium in your diet and maybe some physical therapy.

Sunday mornings, the rainy day kind when you lay about all day, with no plans or anything to do.

Friendships that have lasted through the ages.

There is nothing funnier than a dog with a stereotypical human name and that maybe Lindsay Lohan isn’t all that bad. I believe in good handwriting and manners and that sometimes, it is okay to leap before you look.

A good night with cheap wine and close friends will cure any heartache.

Having a road to drive where you can sing as loud as your voice will let you to your favorite songs.

Laughter and how it allows you to forget all of your worries.

The love you feel when all of your family surrounds you.

I believe that a head-back-excessively-loud-oh-my-God-people-are-staring full belly laugh arguably feels just as good as sex and that black is the most acceptable color for toe nail polish.

Life is a gift and you should cherish the people who walk in your life every day.

Learning from your elders. There is so much you can learn if we just listen.

Second chances for everyone.

Everyone should try to play an instrument at least once and that shoes should be optional during the months of May, June, July, and August.

Every life is equal and precious.

There are low points and high points in life but there is always a light to be found.

Mistakes will be made but I will try to learn from them.

Your hard work and dedication will pay off.

I believe that wrinkles are the human version of a tree trunk’s rings and that freckles and Popsicle stained lips are reminders of summer.

Work is not my world and it should not ever be. We need to stop and smell the roses a bit more.

There are such things as good hair and makeup days and when you have them together… Watch out world!

Laugh loops.

Beating around the bush is for pansies. (That was a pun.)

Confidence (not to be confused with cockiness) makes people more attractive

Everyone is free to love whoever they want just because it isn’t the “norm” doesn’t mean anything.

Stand up for what you believe in- no matter what.

Always keep dreaming and never letting anyone dull your imagination.

If we are doomed to become a generation that communicates solely through e-mails and text messages we may as well make them witty and worth our while. Speaking of wit, I wholeheartedly believe in it; not only keeping them about you but also having a quick one.

Grilled cheese and vodka — not necessarily together though either goes great with pretty much anything.

There are good people and bad people in this world but everyone should be given a chance to prove themselves but I also believe in karma.

We are made up of bits and pieces of the people around us.

Just remember to always stay true to what you believe in and never let anyone make you feel as though you’re wrong!

A dogs intuition in never wrong.

Find a person who makes you feel your best every day- and marry them.




Can I Become A Morning Person?

I have come into a recent phase of my life called “adulting” where apparently you have no money, your house is always dirty and time goes double the speed it did when you were in college. I can never seem to get it all done. I leave work at 5 get to the gym for 5:30 and I’m home around 7:00. I immediately take my bra and pants off make myself dinner and before I know it it’s 2:00 AM.

So apparently there is an option to wake up early, which certainly has its benefits. Thomas Jefferson once said, “The sun has not caught me in bed in 50 years.” Let’s just say that the principal author of the Declaration of Independence knows something about achieving success.

I’ve never been a morning person. I can sort of understand why one might wake up early for mimosas or Christmas but really there is no other reason. However, things need to get done and leaving myself only an hour to wake up, get ready and get to work is not good for my stress levels or outfit choices. So I’ve decided to tack on a little more time to my morning routine.

First get yourself to actually wake up. I’m not expecting myself to immediately have a pep in my step and a song in my heart but I have to work up to that point. That’s like a person who never ran before being the first on out of the gate at the New York Marathon. Slow down, we can’t shock your soul into actually doing things. While this might not be the easiest to do, especially for my night owls, it does have its perks!

Wake Up With the Sun

One of the best things ever is to actually see the day begin. Watch as the sun gradually rises over buildings, bridges, bodies of water, and just soak it in. It gives you a sense of connection to this world we live in, and an appreciation for the little things we may overlook from time to time.

Coffee Tastes Better in the AM

This is not based on science but from a girl who can drink coffee, all day every day, morning coffee is different. You’re relaxed, stress levels are minimal and you have a few moments to get lost in your own mind, it’s as good as it gets. There’s no rush to put in your order; there’s no hassle to transport it out into the world; there’s no rush to get caffeine induced into your mind – it’s just that perfectly poured cup of coffee in your hands to hug and drink at your leisure.

The Calm Before the Storm

It’s a crazy-busy-always-on-the-go type of place here, and the hustle and bustle is right around the corner. But, before all of that, there’s a silence in the city that only happens while many others are still asleep in bed. It’s a different world – a different experience – and it’s worth spending a few minutes of your time to acknowledge it. You’ll discover something new about your city that not everyone does.

More Time

There are only twenty-four hours in a day, we know this. It’s science. However (and this part, I can’t explain to you), when you wake up earlier, the day feels longer – you sense that you have more time. You can spend that time in the morning doing what you want, however you want, and free up time later for whatever it is that’s extremely-pressing-but-you’re-totally-swamped.

Mental Preparation For the Day

For me, there’s nothing worse than walking to work feeling like you’re entering a warzone. Getting whiplash from work emails/requests/clients/colleagues is painful. Truly. Okay, so you can’t always control this. BUT! If you can get your brain started a bit earlier, you’re mentally ready to take on what the day brings. It seems less like an attack, and more manageable when you’ve had time to gradually stimulate your mind.

New Look on the Day

We’re all a little bit crabby when we first wake up – sleeping is wonderful, I completely get that. However, that doesn’t change regardless of what time you wake yourself up. I’ve found that my days start off on the right foot when I’ve had time to prepare for the day ahead. Stress happens, yes, but if I can make sure I’m ready to rock and roll before diving head-first into the day…I’m more optimistic on the day’s events. If you can get yourself up and running earlier than usual, it’s sort of like stretching – you ease into it all. And you’d be surprised how well-equipped you are to bob and weave.



Fall Back In Love With Your Wardrobe

I love fashion and clothes and seeing what is new but there are days I hate getting dressed. But since that is illegal I forge on. This is when I come to the realization that I am completely bored of my wardrobe. Most of the time a quick fix is buying something new but more often than not it’s not the most practical option. Really, it’s just like any relationship where we need to bring that spark back! It’s time to get over that hump.

More is NOT Better
Most girls dream of a Carrie Bradshaw closet. I mean with so many choices getting dress should be a breeze right? Um no. I feel like less is actually more when it comes to your wardrobe. If you haven’t touched some items within a year- your closet might be in need of some weeding.

One of my tips is to take a bin and fill it with all the clothes you don’t wear. Yes this includes those sentimental pieces, items you’ve once loved and those “one day” clothes too. Close that bin and tuck it away. When you don’t reach for those clothes in over six months get rid of the whole lot. Give to friends, donate to charities, consign and for those pieces that can’t be saved- toss ‘em. When it comes to sentimental clothing, you need to learn how to separate emotions from the material items.

Shop Away
If you buy clothes every weekend- you got a problem. New should not equate to better. The thing is with shopping regularly, fashion starts to become more about having something new then the actual clothes. So, when you don’t have anything new to wear, you’re bored. You’re chasing the temporary high of having new things rather than appreciating and loving your wardrobe.

Look at your wardrobe and take a look at your favorite pieces. You know the ones that always look good, the ones that are comfy and make you confident. Take the common denominator and base a wardrobe around that. Some people like bright colors while others love different angles. Just take what you love and work with it.

Did Your Style Change? I hope so!
Maybe you’ve grown out of your youthful clothes and are going for something more mature, or maybe you’ve strayed away from loud prints are heading into a neutral zone, who knows! One thing for sure is that pieces you’ve labelled “not my style anymore” can still be incorporated into your current style in some way but it takes a bit of work. Maybe you don’t wear graphic tees anymore because they just aren’t “you”. Well make them blend into your current wardrobe- add a blazer or a full printed skirt- plus Pinterest is a huge help in creating outfits you could never conjure up yourself

Same Old Combos.
Most of my issues comes when I’m running late. It’s easy for me to fall back on my favorites. Have to be somewhere in 10 minutes- I grab that go to tee and throw on my favorite jeans and wear them together for the hundredth time. No wonder I’m getting bored. You need venture into the depths of your wardrobe and find new clothing combinations that you haven’t tried before. Ever worn a dress as a skirt? Take that chambray shirt and throw a vintage tee underneath? Always wear the same top with those high-wasted pants? Grab a crop top and show off some skin! So by all means pull out that fave top, but be sure to push yourself to wear it with something you’ve never worn before. Just try the combination on and you might be surprised!

Buy What You Need
If it’s cold and miserable outside and you’re sticking with the same old comfortable clothes, then you might need to think about buying some more stylish comfortable clothes. For example, instead of your plain old crew cut  knit you’ve had for years go for this season’s highly coveted trend. If that isn’t your scene try new cuts, hems or styles.

Being bored of your wardrobe could come down to the fact that you’re buying things you like, but not the things you need. With a clear idea of what you need in mind, you can aim to buy things that you both like and need. So take note next time when you you’re looking for something that isn’t there in your wardrobe. If you don’t have anything that goes with those high-waisted palm print culottes, then find something that does!

Do you get bored of your wardrobe? What do you do to overcome it?